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I was perusing my Facebook news feed the other day and stumbled upon this gem. So many “gems” on Facebook! Once I got over my initial irritation at such a stupid generalization (and the horrible grammar), I felt the bitterness radiating off this thing like the aftermath of the Fukushima nuclear disaster, leaving poor, wittow “nice guys” facing barren towns and throat cancer in its wake.

Dear Men of the World, whom I love but sometimes totally stick in my craw:

Seriously, guys, can we please drop this? Here’s a little tough love for you: the “Nice Guy Curse” is a myth. But you’re going about this thing the wrong way. It’s not about you losing out to the “dicks” in life. It’s that you’ve allowed this myth to crush you into a mere shell of what you could be. You accept this to be true — that women want to be treated like shit — and you won’t let it go.


Want to know what it’s really about for women? Confidence. And if you keep hanging onto the “Nice Guy Curse” myth, you’re shooting yourself in the foot. Becoming a self-fulfilling prophecy. A Catch 22, my friend. Yeah, I’m mixing metaphors: IT’S THAT SERIOUS.

Rather than hanging on to the myth, work on owning your stuff and being comfortable in your own skin. Focus on your interests, your hobbies, your fantastic-ness. “To thine own self be true,” said Mr. Shakespeare. The more you know yourself and identify your own needs (and I mean beyond sex), the more confident and happy you will appear, and the more women you will attract. Even if you think it, it’s going to come across in your body language.┬áSo, stop it. Stop it right now.

Are you willing to choose something different for yourself? This one’s on you.